Starting Over
Finding Love and Starting over
When you feel ready to find and engage with love again – seeking out a partner for life – start how you intend to finish – WELL.
One of the biggest challenges is to not compromise on what you want and on your values.
So many people get into relationships and compromise a little here and a little there, until eventually they have the relationship they DID NOT SIGN UP FOR.
Unhealthy Compromises
She Thinks
- He doesn’t want kids now but he’ll change his mind – they all do?
- He’s into cars and I’m not. But I’m ok that he spends every weekend at the racetrack? He’ll get bored with it eventually.
- He drinks a lot – far more than I’d like him too; but he has good man and has control over it and it doesn’t seem to affect his moods so that’s ok.
He Thinks
- I think she has a bit of a temper but I’m ok with it – its tolerable. It doesn’t really matter
- Me and her don’t really connect well but hey – she’s better than my last gf and she’s really good looking so that’s a plus.
- She smokes and I really hate the smell, but its ok providing she doesn’t smoke around me.
What can I do about it?
All of these compromises are cracks in the relational foundation.
Compromising what you want, especially at the beginning , is why counselling and self-development around values based living is so important.
You can choose the love you want.
If you have struggled in the past to find love, maintain love, or establish healthy relationships, lets walk through the process to do so by
- Establishing your values
- Knowing the difference between negotiable and non-negotiable values
- Exploring the patterns of past relationships.
- Establishing healthy new patterns for successful relationship.
- The connection between identity, intuition and intimacy.
